|▲ Complex human relationships are intertwined with various types of SNS|
Adults in their 20s and 30s use various types of social networking (SNS) and are very active in outdoor and social activities. Recently, these age groups are trying to clean up their personal connections. Over time they develop many unimportant personal connections in an attempt to establish long-lasting close relationships due to their strong need for human connection and companionship.
Incruit, a job portal site, surveyed 2526 adult men and women asking if they’d experienced exhaustion from human relationships. 85% of respondents answered "yes" to the question and 46% of respondents said they had cleaned up their personal connections. There were many respondents saying they desired to clean up their connections but hadn’t gotten around to doing anything about it. According to the survey, 6 out of 10 adult men and women have either tried or wanted to clean up their personal connections. Most of them have felt tiredness and skepticism from formal human relationships which has led to their lonely solitude. There were several reasons to clean up personal connections. The most common at a response rate of 31% was people not wanting to make their personal profiles public to strangers. The second most popular reason is “to find my real relationship (29%)”, and “because I have unknown contacts (23%)” etc. The way to clean up personal connections is to mainly use the method of “blocking the person who is providing the tiredness (27%)” and “deleting contacts periodically (23%).” 15% of respondents said that if SNS contacts don’t reply to their greeting on the site, they will clean up their personal connections. Other answers include 14% who don’t use SNS and some (12%) who stopped using SNS for a certain period.
On the other end of the spectrum, there is a social network craze among teens. Among them, the number of online friends in SNS and the number of likes indicate their popularity. Nowadays, smartphones are in the constant grip of high school students. It has become routine to check their phones during class, at lunch time, and while commuting. This is because they have to check their SNS comments in real time and pay attention to messenger contacts with people they don’t know. The greatest concern for students is the number of friends and the number of likes. They also compete with each other to have more online friends. On Facebook and other social networking sites, you can easily see strange and incendiary posts people make in order to get a response from people. It’s often just to attract people’s attention and to increase their influence online by being provocative. However, people who are attracted to stimulating or interesting posts tend to feel lonelier than others when they are not online.
Professor Kwak Joon-joo, a professor of psychology at Seoul National University said, “Although they know many people through SNS, they feel loneliness because they are not real relationships.” Unlike in the past when people pursued quantitative networking, there is an active attempt to clean up personal connections for people in their 20s and 30s because they place greater importance on the depth of their relationships. Many people are forced to meet to maintain their friendship with people. There is a growing tendency to think that spending money or time together with people who don’t want to continue these relationships is a waste. Attempts to clean up personal connections are on the rise. In the past, people started to think that the quantity of personal connections was the most important for social life but now people prioritize the quality of their personal connections.
You don’t have to stress over to the amount of phone numbers and KakaoTalk friends you have. The most important thing is real communication with deeper personal connections.
By Gwon Min-gwan, cub reporter firstname.lastname@example.org
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