"I don't like chubby people because they look careless to their management."
A few years ago, a famous singer talked like this on a TV program. We need to think about how rude and hurtful these words are. It demeans other people by using 'self-management'. This is no different from the people who measure others by their own standard. No one can evaluate another's body and force them to check their own standards. Such a thing proves that you lack self-management. The dictionary definition of self-management is 'a key skill that will help you throughout your life'. It also involves setting goals and managing time.
"Why don't you put on makeup? I don't understand people who don't manage themselves."
This is what someone actually said to me when I was in the 1st grade of university. At that time, I didn't like to put on makeup and I wore thick glasses. I was always confident in myself with no makeup on. I usually put on light makeup only when I wanted to. It was these words from a senior in the school club that were carelessly thrown at me. He marginalized me and I was under some uneasiness by his words. First of all, that was none of his business whether I put on makeup or not. Secondly, I felt unpleasant by his attitude that he defined me as though caring for appearance was all self-management is about. His words were completely different from the true meaning. After that, I broke off contact with him at once. Now, I don't even remember his name.
I'm not saying that caring about appearance is not important. I think it is only one of the many items of self-management. Do not accept only a part as the whole because it is not the absolute standard. I hope people do not force others to overly care for their appearances.
by Jeong Won-kyeong, editor-in-chief
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